Dos Tercios Propio

Relationships? Well, Sigmund. Relationships are so... fragile. It just takes one thing, one... tiny little offense, and it can snowball on ya. And if that snowball starts to pick up speed, God forbid, you'd better tuck and go, my friend.

...And bam! The shine's off the apple. And that's when you find out that that pretty little girl you started dating isn't the girl you put up in a pedestal in the first place. That girl you fantasized about not only having sex with but also waking up with... every day. For the rest of your life. No, she's also the girl that hurts you and hurts you again, and even though you can't stop the pain from pounding your head in and stop you from sleeping... you give it another chance, cause, hey, it can't all be as bad, all the time, right? But then that snowball keeps rolling, and rolling. And suddenly you find yourself saying things you thought you would never say to her, cause how dare she question how you feel. You have given up so much for her and she turns around and actis like it's no big deal. It's expected.

But then, weeks later, you turn that magnifying glass on yourself and you realize you weren't the knight in shining armor you then thought you had been. You pushed, you whined, you fought so much it made it sickening. You were so afraid of losing her all you did was push her away even more.

Relationships don't work they way they do on television and in the movies. "Will they? Won't they?" And then they finally do, and they're happy forever. Gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren't right for each other to begin with, and half of the ones who get married get divorced anyway, and I'm telling you right now, through all this stuff I have not become a cynic. I haven't. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate covered candies and, y'know, in some cultures, a chicken. About being there for each other even though it's gotten incredibly hard to stay. About not letting the little things become big things and snowball the relationship out of existence. About caring enough to fight and fight again. You can call me a sucker, I don't care, because I do believe in it. Bottom line: couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time. If it's right, and they're real lucky, one of them will say something.

Sometimes they just keep waiting for them to speak up. And never get an answer.